Feeling anxious is a part of being
human. We can’t run away from anxiety if we are fully participating in life. If
one of my adult children were to be diagnosed with a life altering illness, I
would become an anxious mother. Going through two divorces, I felt anxious
about how I would move forward with my life. Everyone has been through
difficult times which gave rise to anxious feelings. Yet for some, coping with
anxiety is a daily challenge and requires professional attention.
Anxiety is a normal reaction to stress;
however, excessive anxiety can lead to phobias, panic attacks, PTSD and health
related issues. Medical or psychological interventions offer some relief for
these disorders. However, most event-specific anxiety (life changes,
relationship conflict, illness, minor loss, etc ) can be worked through with a
positive attitude, basic coping skills and effective protocols.
The following strategies have been effective
in eliminating the physical and emotional discomfort of anxiety: herbs, essential oils, meridian tapping,
breathing exercises, mindfulness exercises, hypnosis, yoga, massage, prayer and
contemplation, acupuncture, distraction activities, exercise, food, beverages,
psychotherapy, and medication. One acupuncture treatment restored me to calm
and ease after I received a cancer diagnosis. Without the internal trembling, I
was able to research treatments and choose the ones that were right for me.
Both anxiety and fear trigger a physical
response within your body: fight (take on the battle), flight (avoid the
situation) or freeze (hide from it). However, a chronic state of “high alert” compromises
your physical health and emotional well-being.
Below is the Look, Listen and Act Approach
to reducing and eliminating anxiety. It allows you to change your perception, take
your power back and move through anxiety with ease:
LOOK - Stop
and face the imagined fear. Accept (do not judge) your feelings or yourself. Allow
anxiety to move through you instead of run or hide from this feeling. When you
focus on and slow down your breathing, you are then able to stop the internal
chatter and think clearly. You might say to yourself as you take some slow deep
breaths, “My stomach is churning when I
think of facing my husband in court but right now I am safe.” (Tune into
the safety of the present moment not the future event that is happening in your
mind.)
LISTEN - Observe
and decipher the message within the fear. Fear is a signal that something isn’t
right, whether it is imagined (false
evidence appearing real) or a
real threatening situation.
Ask yourself:
·
What
are my body and mind trying to tell me?
·
What
is the perceived threat to me right now?
·
What
can I do right now to take my power back? Options: Change your thoughts
and reduce your stress; change the situation by taking charge; or remove yourself
from the situation.
·
What
will I do if the worst thing happens? Create a plan.
ACT - Proceed
with an action that changes your relationship to the fear through some positive
intervention: go for a walk, do yogic breathing or stretching, have a cup of herbal
tea, exercise, ask a Higher Power to help you change your perception, surrender
the outcome to a Higher Power, tap meridian points, say an affirmation or
mantra, visualize a serene scene, call a friend for support, and more. Once the
emotional turmoil has lessened, you are more able to take charge of what is
within your power to change or let go of the situation.
These techniques enable you to keep a
realistic and positive perspective as you acknowledge and move through your
anxiety and fear. They give you a time out from turbulent emotions and physical
discomfort in order to gain a new perspective that feels less threatening and
may even help you replace anxiety with calm and ease. Over time, you might
develop the habit of visualizing positive outcomes. You might even develop the
ability to trust more and fear less.