Remember that old adage,
“It’s never too late”?
Yesterday, I found myself living
out the expression.
I was dancing. Yes, dancing. For those who can’t relate to
dancing, let me move the marker. Maybe you thought it was too late in life for
singing, painting, cycling, traveling, building, creating or any other –ing you
can imagine.
In my case, dancing was
something I silently wished to do 35 years ago yet, despite a major lapse in
time, I was experiencing that secret desire between 9 and 10 am yesterday
morning.
There is no hard luck story
about a poor-little-me; instead, I merely experienced youth as a bookworm with
limited social exposure. So when most young girls my age were dancing, I
remained hidden, and nearly obscured, in the shadows of mere observation.
Yesterday brought me to my
familiar Dance Fusion class at the Safety Harbor Resort & Spa. The instructor
generally takes students on a trip around the world through dance, but she decided
instead to feature a newly purchased CD – one that proved very old and special to
me.
“Do you remember….the
twenty-third day of September?” Sounds
from Earth, Wind & Fire suddenly emanated through a brightly lit,
mirror-encapsulated gym. In a single moment, I found myself time-warped.
I was transported to a September
night in 1977 when I played spectator at an on-campus event. One of just a few
all-girl dorms at Boston
College, Williams opened
its cellar doors to a sophomore dance party. The place brimmed with excitement,
energy and the kind of anticipation that accompanies teens on the brink of
adulthood.
From somewhere in the
shadows, I watched. Preppy looking coeds and guys either naturally confident or
semi-inebriated moved to the rhythms of Earth, Wind and Fire, the late 70s
R&B sensation.
That indelible moment struck
me: I loved watching others dance, but longed be part of the music myself. Like
the librarian who slips out to watch Saturday matinees and vicariously experience
the other side of life, I was doing the same. In my case, I wasn’t seated in a
red velvet chair at the local movie theater. I was there, standing in the
corner, watching real people dance.
So it was shocking yesterday
as that profound moment from September 1977 returned. Here I was, 35 years
after the fact, hearing the very same music and dancing freely, happily and
full of bodily expression. I was living, totally and physically engaged in the
moment.
With only a handful of us in
class, one of whom was a professional flamenco dancer, our instructor had us moving
to all kinds of increasingly interrelated jazz steps.
I wasn’t 19, I wasn’t
dressed in preppy clothing, and I was no longer an undergrad. Instead, I was
shoeless, attired in black and aquamarine dance wear, and beaming with my own
sense of happiness.
I was no longer just a dance
student; I was a participant capable of keeping up with my instructor. Who
would have guessed from that darkened moment in September 1977 that there
remained a moment in 2012 known as now?
Who would have known in 1977
of my future? Would I guess that I’d one day have an instructor who began
studying classical ballet at the age of 6 and expanded her dancing talents ever
since? When most Americans wouldn’t consider the thought, my instructor
traveled to Dubai
to perform and instruct in Middle Eastern dance.
Coupled with a passion for history
and cultures, Alexandra Treiber’s breadth of dance experience is now mine to
learn from and contribute to in her Dance Fusion classes. The woman who sees
dance as her joy, a form of unspoken prayer translatable into any language, is
now my regular instructor. She is helping me live out the adage: It’s never too
late.
An elder gentleman, wise,
worldly and experienced, referenced the same adage just a few weeks ago. We were
conversing and I joked, “Well, it’s obviously too late for that now!”
The elder man stopped me in
mid-sentence. Looking deeply into my eyes, he intoned, “It’s never too late.”
The older man referenced the
adage for reasons having nothing to do with dance. Yet, just weeks later, I would
find myself living out the words in a completely different setting.
It is never too late. I’m no
longer 19 or back in college. But I can currently experience the very joy of
living in the moment I secretly hoped for years ago. I could come out from
shadows and enter the spotlight. My spotlight has nothing to do with TV lights,
mirror balls or Dancing with the Stars
competitions.
Instead, my emergence from
darkness involved bringing forth an inner wish to express my joy rather than
having to rely on others to do it for me. I was no longer a spectator.
I could have danced for no
one at all yesterday, but I was happy to dance with other women. Dancing together,
we could create a collective joy. Just like what I watched that particular night
in September 1977 on the Boston
College campus…only
different.
I’m often humored for holding
out a childlike belief in dreams becoming reality. But dreams that arise from
the heart run deep. Childlike dreams are not tainted by thoughts of competition,
retribution or even revenge. Somehow, these dreams are meant to be
expressed…even if in a different form than how we first imagined them.
As we come to believe it is
never too late, we can anticipate the personal rewards of good thoughts and
pleasantly designed intentions. These dreams wouldn’t think to harm others: to
the contrary, they would bring about good wishes, good will and happiness.
It’s never too late for
those hidden wishes of your heart to come and surprise you today. Whether it’s dancing, writing, singing,
building, playing or creating, what are you waiting for?
It’s Never Too Late.