By Caryl
Loper
Change
and acceptance are inevitably the most challenging state of affairs. There may
be varying degrees of difficulty depending on the situation. Losing someone you
love is a heartrending experience. Has
there been a time in your life when you were challenged to accept such a
fate?
Such
a fate will affect matters of the heart at the deepest level. Without any doubt,
they are complex and arduous. It is never about disregarding the experience,
sweeping it under the rug, but rather one of acceptance. It is about learning
bravely, sifting through our perceptions of negative thoughts and extracting
some measure of truth that teaches us something of value. What
did you learn? If you could, would you make a different choice? How has it
changed who you are? How can you help someone else through their
experience?
Losing
someone through death, divorce or abandonment is agonizing and heartbreaking. It
would be unusual to say that anyone was immune from such an outcome. Although
devastating, they broaden who we are. What
emotions have you felt from your experience? What differences do you see and
feel about life? How can you help another human being?
Here
is one journey that I relate, express and share with you. It is not my personal
experience; yet,
it
is everyone’s, simply because at one point or another we have all embraced loss,
misfortune and adversity.
In
1969, when my husband Gary was only 13 years old he lost someone so dear to him
–
his
baby brother.
Can
you imagine? I
cannot.