What Do You Really Want?

            What do you want? I’ve found myself asking that question a lot lately…to both myself and my clients.

            As we go through life, we often think we know what we want and we actively go after it, sometimes with a vengeance. But when obstacles crop up, we may find ourselves frustrated, confused, even angry. It’s not supposed to be this way, we think to ourselves. If we focus on what we want, truly desire it and go after it, we are supposed to be able to “manifest” it.

            Why does that not always happen?

            I think it is because sometimes we have not truly identified, after all, what it is that we really want. For when we think we know what we want, we are only getting the opinion of our conscious minds. Deeper inside, we may have a variety of conflicting and opposing desires and intentions. Unless we identify these and evaluate them, we will never truly know our real intentions. We will have lost the opportunity to get the opinion of our most important part – our inner, intuitive selves.

 I know from hard-won experience that my inner, intuitive self has a better grasp of what I really want than my outer, conscious self does. So when I come upon obstacles or delays in my efforts to manifest my goals, I step back, revisit the situation and ask for fuller, deeper awareness. I look at the long-range view of my goal. Is there some part of it that I really want, but perhaps not all of it? What outcomes or consequences will emerge once I have attained my goal? Most importantly, what will I have to give up for it? What will I not be doing because I am doing the thing I set out to do?

Asking and reflecting on these questions, I often come to understand that I am unconsciously pulling myself in one direction at the same time that I am pushing forth in another direction. But finding out what I really want is only half the battle. The nest step is to decide…do I really want to “manifest” or do I want to follow a Path? Is it my will or Divine Will that I wish to bring to bear on this situation? I can choose either one, and the universe will not care. I simply know…from experience…that the universe probably has a better plan.

So nowadays, I do know what I want. I simply want to know I ask for a clear, obvious sign of the universe’s intentions for me.  And the wisdom to recognize it when I get it.

Rita Milios, LCSW, the Mind Mentor, is a psychotherapist, author and workshop presenter from Kissimmee, FL. She can be reached for information regarding workshops or spiritual coaching services at ritamilios@gmail.com. Or call Rita at 863-496-7223.