Which Rule to Break?
Years ago I
learned an excellent lesson.
I broke one
of my primary coaching rules –
RULE # 1:
Never Answer An UNASKED Question.
Over time
it has become clear that unless someone is asking for help only then will they be willing to hear and accept direction and guidance.
For a moment, think of your children, family or friends when you gave them unsolicited
advice about something that would have saved them some type of pain. Even with
your well-meaning intention, what happened?
Did they
listen to your unsolicited advice?
Probably not.
My dilemma
was another rule –
RULE # 2: When you see someone drowning, DON’T stop and
ask them if they need help. Do Something
To Help.
Coming from
the mindset of being a Go-Giver, I look for opportunities to help others and
add value to their life. Usually in my
coaching practice I can sense the direction of where my clients are heading,
and easily guide them to ask for help.
Getting
back to the scenario years ago when I learned an excellent lesson. When I broke
my 1st rule, it happened when I noticed someone I’ve known for years struggling
with a situation. Better yet, I felt they were struggling. I reached out asking
if something was wrong because they did not seem to be flowing as well as I had
seen in the past.
The
reaction was surprising – but, shouldn’t have been if I had remembered that
first rule. They were not open to receiving any of the console; or, perhaps they
simply needed it wrapped up prettier.
My question
is – which rule would you have broken?
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