“If you want to conquer fear, don’t sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy.”
When people encounter me these days, they assume I’ve never been daunted by fear.
They couldn’t be more mistaken!
Most of my life was consumed by fear
and, in many ways, I wore fear like the plague. When delivering visual
lectures, I like to show a few old photos so others in the audience cannot just see, but also feel and relate, to the limiting, isolating and
even paralyzing role that fear plays in our lives.
Fear is a commonly experienced,
life-draining foe to mankind. It’s the opposite of love and presents a
major block to our happiness and peace of mind.
I often laugh about life’s ironies,
occasionally quipping how I went through life “without any novocain.”
Anyone who relates to a buzzing dentist drill boring into an open cavity
knows exactly what I mean.
It is not easy feeling the heightened, and
often horrifying, emotions that accompany our fears. Those emotions show up
everywhere, causing us to attack others or run for cover to protect our
vulnerable sense of self.
For most of us, running
for cover means medicating ourselves with habits or activities that mask
the pain. Unfortunately, that means the original sources of our fears continue to stick
around.
As hard as it’s been to face my own fears, I thought more about getting through them than I did about repeating them!
Somehow, I believed that if I
avoided my fears, they would return again in slightly revamped
scenarios.
Sometimes, I felt brave and took major steps in confronting my
fears. At other times, and far more frequently, I’d take the smallest of baby
steps forward.
In each case, I reminded myself that these fears would eventually have to pass away — even as I passed through them.
While I still encounter anxieties,
much of my former emotional self has slowly, progressively passed away.
I've stepped
through the dim clouds of darkness and emerged into a sunnier, brighter
day.
Living Happy Inside Out Podcast on Overcoming Fear
I’m so pleased to offer my latest podcast so that you can take a look at your fears and start passing through them, too.
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BONUS: Meet Mark Pattison, a former NFL player who turned summit climber to find how what makes him happy from the inside out.
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Click here for Podcast 127: What Are You Afraid Of?
Need a visual on the idea of walking through your fear? Check out this video entitled Lost in a Fog.
Maura is an International Speaker on Influence, Leadership and Emotional Intelligence
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